Yes, I take my kids to the hair salon.
But, before you start shaming me, let me just say this.
Recently, I read an article on places not to take your kids and I’ve already completed two on that list more than once.
The movie theater and the hair salon.
I even stood in a line of other fellow Twilight lovers while everyone stared at my four-month-old baby.
Don’t worry she didn’t make a peep.
I know it would be more enjoyable to not take my kids, but my kids are good kids.
And taking them, sometimes, is my only option.
Don’t worry, I will leave if my children cause you to miss out on an enjoyable experience.
Because honestly, I know what it’s like to miss out on things.
Good thing. Fun things. Relaxing things.
Why I Take My Kids To The Hair Salon
I think all moms struggle with feeling great about their hair.
Sometimes my hair gets too mom-like.
Not enough sass.
And we all want to feel pretty!
If you’re like me going to the hair salon takes extra hard work.
It’s finding someone to watch the kids, packing up all the necessities, wrangling up the crew, and keeping the rest of your sanity until you get to the soak up some much-needed mom time.
Any mom knows the hours it takes for to prepare for a trip like this.
In our mind, we go over our routine checklist;
Yes, I will get you some chocolate milk.
and is what am I missing?
This list is a little different now with older kids, but there still is a list.
Sometimes I don’t want to find a sitter.
Other times I don’t want to worry about my kids while I’m gone.
It feels more exhausting than enjoyable.
And why would I want to spend my extra money only trying to get an enjoyable experience?
My First Time Taking My Kids To The Hair Salon
The first time I took my kids to the hair salon was terrifying!
I walked in nervously not knowing the outcome.
Would my toddlers end up in a crying fest?
Surely they were going to kick me out!
In my thoughts of worry and panic, another mom of three walked in.
She had a four-year-old daughter, and three-year-old son, and a new baby.
Wow! If she could handle three, I could handle my two! Her presence comforted me.
Maybe we were both relieved in seeing another mom tackle an impossible mission, or maybe it was more.
You see we are all in our mom journey together. We go through the same emotions and struggles. We experience the same joy, worry, and anger.
Maybe you’re not the mom that wants to take your kids with you to the hair salon, or the movies.
And that’s okay.
But please don’t shame me for doing so.
This is my once every six months, if I’m lucky, outing.
To the Mom in the Hair Salon:
Thank you to the Mom in the salon!
Somehow for the first time, I didn’t feel judged by you.
I felt accepted even though I know we have our differences.
How great it is to support each other and to be on the same level, despite our various beliefs!
At times we feel alone in our journey. We think and we doubt if we are doing it right. We wonder if breastfeeding is the best decision. If co-sleeping is better than the cry-out-method. Some moms have circumcised boys while others protest against it.
There’s so much to debate about! Our jobs come with a lot of possible outcomes. But ultimately we want the BEST!
If only I could be the mom in the salon to my best friend! There are so many times where I have thrown my own parenting tactics at her thinking my way is the BEST way! I’m so sorry!
You want MY ugly. Here is it. There are so many times where I have tried shoving my methods at my other mommy friends. Instead of listening and giving them the support they need. I make the things that work for me the BEST solution for everyone. In reality, we have to find out what works best for ourselves and for our family.
God, please help me to guard my mouth and open my ears! No mom should ever feel alone in their journey of parenting or think they have to hold their rants inside out of fear of my judgment. I want to be the mom people turn to. Please help us be that mom!
This week’s challenge: I know it’s so hard not to judge other moms when we are stuck on what we feel is right. When you go out and see another mom give her a smile. Make a little small talk. You might find out you have a few things in common. Imagine the world where we all helped each other despite our differences. What a beautiful world that could be!
If you want more on how to be a better support one another my friend Noelle Rhodes has a podcast and blog, read her thoughts here.
I also wanted to share with all of you moms-Happy Mother’s Day MOMMIES! I’m so glad we get to do this together and don’t ever forget how important you are! With love from a friend,
Want to read more? Check out my post about my growing toddler.